Tips for saying no to friends

Saying no to friends while trying to make change to your own drug use can be difficult. But there are things you can do to make it easier.

One of the biggest challenges when you make a change to your use is the fact that everyone else might not want to change with you! It’s likely you’ll still be offered drugs or alcohol, and saying no can be one of the hardest things to do. This is because it’s normal to want to be with friends, to be liked and to avoid conflict. So here are a few suggestions if you want to get better at saying no when offered drugs or alcohol.

BE PREPARED WITH A WAY TO SAY NO 

Some people will accept no, but friends and people you are used to using or drinking with may want an explanation. Think about what you might say or borrow from some of our suggestions.

• Nah, not this time
• Nah, I’m not feeling too good
• No, I’m cutting down
• I’ll pass
• I’m sitting this one out

If this isn’t enough try something like

• Tempting but no thanks
• You go ahead, I can catch up with you later
• Come on, I need your support here
• My mum will lose it if I do
• I can’t, I’m driving later

USE POSITIVE BODY LANGUAGE

When you say no, be aware of your posture. If it’s culturally appropriate for you, try to look your friend or the person offering you drugs or alcohol in the eye when you talk.

CHANGE THE SUBJECT

To show you’re not interested in using or drinking, try and talk about something else or move the conversation to a topic you are comfortable with. It can also be helpful to try to redirect the activity, suggest a sport game instead of going where you always do to use.

Remember, it can be really hard and might take some practice, but it will feel more natural over time.

GET OTHERS ONBOARD

Part of making changes requires doing things and thinking for yourself.  You might also be surprised how supportive friends can be, and who else actually wants to change too if you let them know your plans.

How would you support a friend who was cutting down or quitting?