Saying no to friends while trying to make change to your own drug use can be difficult. But there are things you can do to make it easier.
One of the biggest challenges when you make a change to your use is the fact that everyone else might not want to change with you! It’s likely you’ll still be offered drugs or alcohol and saying no can be one of the hardest things to do. This is because it’s normal to want to be with friends, to be liked and to avoid conflict. So here are a few suggestions if you want to get better at saying no when offered drugs or alcohol.
BE PREPARED WITH A WAY TO SAY NO
Some people will accept no, but friends and people you are used to using or drinking with may want an explanation. Think about what you might say or borrow from some of our suggestions.
- Nah, not this time
- Nah, I’m not feeling too good
- No, I’m cutting down
- I’ll pass
- I’m sitting this one out
If this isn’t enough try something like
- Tempting but no thanks
- You go ahead, I can catch up with you later
- Come on, I need your support here
- My mum will lose it if I do
USE POSITIVE BODY LANGUAGE
When you say no, be aware of your posture. If it’s culturally appropriate for you try to look your friend or the person offering you drugs or alcohol in the eye when you talk.
CHANGE THE SUBJECT
To show you’re not interested in using or drinking try and talk about something else or move the conversation to a topic you are comfortable with.
It’s normal to want to be with friends, to be liked and to avoid conflict
Remember, it can be really hard and might take some practice. On the other hand, part of making changes requires doing things and thinking for yourself. You might also be surprised how supportive friends can be. How would you support a friend who was cutting down or quitting?
It takes courage to change. Remember you are not alone & other young people have been in your shoes.
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